Technology is a key part of how we connect to other people. Chances are a lot of your socialising and interaction with others happens through your smartphone. Why not harness that power of technology for good in your relationship?
More and more apps are available that can help you connect with your partner and enhance your relationship. Here are our picks for the top 10 apps for couples.
Pair has been described as a private Facebook for couples. Pair tries to create as many ways as possible for you and your partner to stay connected when you’re physically apart. It allows you to send text messages, kisses and “touches”, share photos and videos, send your location, and create drawings together. Pair also helps you keep track of important dates and shared tasks. Pair is a playful, colourful, fun and private platform to stay in touch with your partner during your day-to-day lives.
The Love Maps app was developed by couples therapy experts John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans have done extensive research on what makes marriages work. They found that one of the keys to relationship success is the quality of your “love maps”. Love maps include what we know about our partner’s inner world and experiences, from day to day events to their bigger hopes and dreams. The more you know about what’s important to your partner, the more likely that your relationship will work. The Gottmans designed this app to help you and your partner improve your love maps and strengthen your relationship.
Couples fight sometimes. It’s part of relationships. So how do you recover from a fight? Fix a Fight was designed to help couples get back on track and develop even greater intimacy after an argument. Fix a Fight helps each partner name and discuss their feelings and the intensity of their emotions, find ways to make up, and includes self-soothing and relaxation exercises to help both people calm down after a tense interaction. It includes voiceover instructions from couples counsellor Mark McGonigle.
Missing your partner when you’re apart? HeyTell allows you to hear one another’s voices from afar. Imagine combining a text message with a Walkie Talkie and you have HeyTell. HeyTell allows you to record short voice messages and send them to your partner. They receive a notification, much like for a text message, and open the app to play your message. More intimate than an SMS and shorter and easier to coordinate than a phone call. You can also send location information via the app.
There are a lot of shared tasks in a relationship, especially when you’re living with your partner. Wunderlist can help you and your partner coordinate all those to-dos that are a necessary part of life but not exactly exciting romance. Wunderlist is a task management program that allows you to share tasks lists, add tasks or check them off as completed, set reminders, and star certain tasks as important. The lists sync wirelessly so you’re both on the same page. It’s great for projects such as holiday planning or home renovations and everyday tasks like shopping lists. Wunderlist is also great for creating and sharing long-term dreams and bucket lists.
Now the app you’ve been waiting for: Kindu is the ultimate app for exploring your sexuality with your partner. Kindu provides over 600 examples of turn ons, fantasy role plays, and sexy activities. Each person privately answers “yes”, “no”, or “maybe” to the options provided. Kindu then reveals the matches you share with your partner. Your answers stay confidential; if you say “yes” and your partner says “no”, your secret stays safe with Kindu. The app offers a safe way to discuss sexual fantasies and desires with your partner while avoiding potential embarrassment. A great way to start difficult conversations about physical intimacy in your relationship.
WhatsApp Messenger allows you to send text messages and images to your partner through your internet connection. Many people use this to avoid the charges that come from sending SMS or MMS in the traditional way. Once you’ve purchased the app you can send as many messages as your data plan with allow without additional fees. It’s a great way to let your partner know you’re thinking about them through the day.
Urbanspoon is a great way to plan a night out on the town. It’s a directory of eateries, pubs, and bars including user reviews, maps, menus, and detailed venue information. You and your partner can each create a wishlist of places you’d like to try as well as a favourites list and positive or negative votes for businesses. Add each other as friends to see your partner’s likes, dislikes, and wishlist. The app also utilises your phone’s GPS to show you nearby venues with reviews. Urbanspoon is a great resource when you’re trying to come up with a date night location or are hungry and struggling to think of a good dinner spot.
Theicebreak was designed for couples to help them keep them stay emotionally connected and have some fun in the process. The app provides a series of questions and activities to help you get to know each other even better and to keep up with what’s happening in each other’s lives. It also facilitates relationship health checks in 7 key areas to make sure you’re on the right track. Theicebreak allows you to share private photos and notes as well.
Are you and your partner planning a wedding? Appy Couple can help you create and share wedding information with your loved ones. You can upload photos, sent event details with RSVPs, send images, check the weather, make travel arrangements, and much more. Many couples start a wedding album on Appy Couple when they get engaged and continue to update it until after their wedding. Invited guests can log in to see what you’ve shared.
Are there any other apps that have helped strengthen your relationship? Let us know in the comments section!
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